WAHM life, this is my calling


This is a guest post by Jennyfer Tan of The Techie Mom

I am writing this while waiting for my son to come out of his class.

I’ve brought him to school, went back home, fed my three year-old daughter her breakfast, helped her with her “homework” (tracing, coloring, etc), bathed her, put her down for a nap, gave her lunch, brought her to school and then went straight to my son’s school to fetch him, and it’s just 1:30 PM.
I still have to bring him to the barber shop for his haircut, go home to check his assignment notebook, tutor and help him with his assignments. Then I leave him to work on it while I fetch my daughter from her school.
Good thing it’s just three minutes away!
The few minutes that I have “free” will be spent answering email of clients, the urgent ones first, then start on my “to do” list, hoping to get some work done. My “to-do” list may consist of cleaning up excel spreadsheets, troubleshooting errors on websites, or starting a WordPress migration project

By the time both kids are sleeping tonight. I will normally finish my work around midnight to 2 AM, depending on the difficulty of the projects/tasks that I have pending.

Tomorrow, I will wake up at 5:45 AM to do the same things again; some days with my son’s piano lessons and other extra curricular activities that our kids need to attend to.

This is the typical day of a full-time work-at-home parent. I AM a working parent, too.

We might not have the physical offices to go to, a boss to report to, but we are working just as hard as corporate parents do, oftentimes more.

I want to break the misconception that we have the luxury of time and just lounge around and enjoy coffee breaks any time we want. These precious minutes are actually our “time to get our sanity back”. We actually NEED these times because we would really go insane without that precious break, but actually having those breaks is another story. (Good luck to us most of the time.)

Compared to other parents, I actually have it easy. I have a supportive husband who’s also a work-at-home parent. He prepares our breakfast, acts as my “reliever” every other day so that I get the chance to sleep 30 minutes longer while he gets to do the chores that need to be done. We have an agreement that whoever has the higher priority project gets to stay at home and actually work on that project while the other parent is the driver/yaya/slave of the day.

I salute those who are full-time, stay-at-home parents who are homeschooling their (three or more) children, whose husband/wife needs to leave for work, who does the household chores because they don’t have household help while they also work so that they can help out in the family’s finances, like my friends TheHappy Wahm, Michelle Padrelanan, etc.

Many people think we are living the good life. We are.

We are doing the best that we can with what life has given us, and, although sometimes I feel like I’m actually standing between sanity and insanity, if I was given a second chance in life, I would still choose to be a full-time, work-at-home mom.

This is my calling. This is what I am supposed to be.

I have to go. My son’s is now beside me, waiting for me to send this so we can leave the school premises and start on his homework.

I’m Jennyfer Tan, wife to a freelance graphic artist/art director, full-time mother to two kids, age 10 and 3 and a multi-tasking, tech-oriented Virtual Assistant and WordPress Migration Consultant, online friends lovingly call me “The Techie Mom”. Connect with her: www.thetechiemom.com. “Like” her on Facebook: www.facebook.com/thetechiemom