Working with your Kids in Mind, Part 2: Help is Good!

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This is the second of three posts I’m doing each week of June, on “Working with Your Kids in Mind”. Read part 1 below:

Part 1: The First Truth — Family comes first when you’re WAHMing.

I am truly grateful for the “helpers” I have in my life who make my “WAHMing” possible. First credit goes to my husband, of course, with whom I “tag team” on this lifestyle. (Thanks, babe!) Credit is also due to the other people — hired help and services — who make it possible for our household to enjoy the flexibility of work and activities that best suits us as a family. This brings me to my next point about working with our kids in mind as WAHMs, which has to do with help. 

Truth #2: Help is good. Invest in it.

Often, one of the first things we have to let go of as WAHMs is the belief that “we can do it all.” We can’t. The truth is: We cannot be one-woman shows as WAHMs. We can try our best to do everything around the house and for our clients; we can allow ourselves to get sucked into the belief that we are “rocking it all,” but it’s usually all just an illusion.

I made the mistake of trying to be superwoman, early into my work-at-home life. I tried to do everything: make all the meals from scratch; do the cleaning, the laundry, the grocery shopping; take my son to play dates, even attempt to homeschool him. In short, I got burned out.

To combat this habit of “super-coping,” my husband and I then factored in a “helper’s budget” immediately. We set aside funds specifically for tasks that we could delegate or outsource, most of which had to do with managing the home more effectively so that we could enjoy our home, not feel trapped by it. [Read more...]

Working with Kids in Mind, Part 1: Family First

This is the first of three posts I’m doing, on “Working with Your Kids in Mind”

I mentioned over on Facebook and in the WAHMs Facebook Group that I gave a talk about WAHM-hood, at a recent idea-share event in a co-working space here in Manila. I talked about five truths that family women need to embrace if they want to work from home with their kids as their highest priority. It’s basically what we all talk about whenever we have our WAHMderful Life workshops, but I truly believe that these truths — when imbibed — can help make our lives as WAHMs more purposeful, more meaningful.

Disclaimer: This is not meant to be expert advice! I will say this, though:

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Let’s begin, shall we, with Truth #1?

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5 Non-Expert Tips on How to Make WAHMing Work for You

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Last night, I gave a talk at co.Lab on how to “work with your kids in mind” while you’re a homebased working mom. I’m no “expert” at WAHMing (not that anyone is), so I just shared the life lessons that I’d gleaned from my three years as an active work-at-home mom. I began the talk by laying down a mindset, one that we in the WAHMderful Life Workshops are familiar with: In the same way that being a mom might not be for every woman, working from home is not really everyone’s ideal work setup either. Working outside the traditional confines of an office is freeing, yes, but when you add a kid (or several) into the mix, you have a work-home setup that is twice as challenging to work out.

This is why for me, working from home while raising a child has been one of the greatest achievements I’ve ever made. It’s my chosen lifestyle, but it’s not easy; it involves a lot of figuring-out, a lot of system revisions, lots of interrupted schedules, postponed meetings, “kid” emergencies, and the daily grind of the three “Ls” as we call it in Filipino: luto, linis, laba (cooking, cleaning, laundry).

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